ANG MABUHAY NA ANG TELEBISYON AY ISANG LUHO

      Sa panahon ngayon tinuturing na nating mga Pilipino na ang Telebisyon ay isang uri ng pangangailangan, na kung saan noon tayo ay nililimitahan ng mga matatandang manood ditto minsan pa nga may curfew at kapag hindi ka gumawa ng takdang aralin ay bawal sa iyo ang manood ng Telebisyon. SAbi ng mga matatanda masama daw ang sobrang panonood ng TV pero kapag tinatanung ko kung bakit ang sagot lamang nila ay nakakalabo daw ng mata dahil sa radio active (itama ninyo ako kung mali).

Ngayon bale wala nalang ang panonood ng Telebisyon kahit sino nakakapanood kahit hangang kelan nila gusto, kung ang isusulat mo sa friendster mong pampalipas ng oras ay manood ng tv malamang pag-isipan ka nila na BORING! di tulad noon kapag panonood ng Telebisyon ang pagpapalipas oras mo eh tingin nila sa iyo ay mayaman dahil bihira palang naman ang may TV noon hindi tulad ngayon kahit yung mga nasa BUNDOK ay nakakapanood na ng HBO.

Ang nais kung ibahagi sa artikulong ito ay ang aking magandang karanasan noong tinigilan ko na ang masyadong panonood ng telebisyon. Noong una weird ang ideya na ito sa akin pero mula noong naging interesado ako sa paksa na “HOW TO RUN YOUR MIND” ay tila ba naging responsible ako sa mga taong nakakasama, naririnig, nakikita o binabasa ang mga ito ay may malaking epekto kung paano tumatakbo ang isipan ng tao at isa pa sa nagpa-kumbinse sa akin ay yung topic ni Steve Pavlina tungkol sa “GIVING-UP TV” sa address na http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2006/06/giving-up-tv/ at yung 8 Changes after giving up TV http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2006/08/8-changes-i-experienced-after-giving-up-tv/ ang mga ito ang nagkumbinse sa akin na subukan ang experimenting tigilan ang telebisyon sa loob ng tatlungpung araw.

Makikita ninyo sa artikulo ni Steve ang kanyang mga naranasang pagbabago at sa akin masasabi ko na yung SAVING TIME ang top one na pagbabago sa akin dahil kung susumahin mo ang panonood ng TV ang isa sa pinakamalakas kumain ng ating oras na imbis ang mga oras na ito ay igugol sa gym, jogging, practice o ano mang mga bagay na productive gawin ay sa panonood ng Telebisyon napupunta.

ANG MGA NARANASAN

PAGKAINIP

Tulad ng una kung sinabi ang isa sa naranasan ko ay yung pagkakaroon ng malaking oras para sa sarili, nung unang linggo ng expiremento medyo nakakabato! Pero inisip ko paano ko kaya malalagpasan ang tatlungpung araw na walang telebisyon? Naisip ko na ang nagtutulak sa akin upang manood ng TV ay ang aking pagkainip. Kung hindi naiinip ang isang tao walang puwang sa kanya ang panahon na manood ng Telebisyon. Dito ko napag-alaman na ang Pagkainip ay sinyales na nagiging iresponsable ka sa iyong buhay. Paano ko nasabing nagiging iresponsable? Dahil kung responsible ka sa pagplaplano, pagiisip, pagsusuri kung anu-ano ang maari mong gawing kapaki-pakinabang at kaaya-aya ay hindi magkakaroon ng blankong lugar ang iyong utak.

PARANG PAGKAIN

Napansin ko sa tatlung pung araw na walang telibisyon ay kung ano ang madalas mong Makita, marinig at isipin ay ito rin ang nagiging basehan o tularan ng iyong paguugali pati narin kung papaano mo bigyan ng reaksyon ang mga bagay-bagay sa iyong paligid. Napagkumpara ko noon kapag iniisip ko ang pinas ang mga paunahin kung naalala ay KRIMEN, RAPE, KURAPSYON O SUNOG!!! Bakit? Kasi ito ang madalas na makikita sa Telebisyon, dyaryo pati narin sa radio kaya hindi malayong puro krisis at masasamang inpormasyon ang naitatatak mo kapag iniisip ang Pinas. Nitong matapos ang tatlungpung araw na hindi panonood ng telebisyon at manapa ang naging aliwan ko ay pagbabasa ng mga self-help at inspirational books bago matulog at pageehersisyo kada umaga at pagkatapos ng trabaho ay kapag naiisip ko ang Pinas ang pangunahin kung naalala ay ang aking pamilya, magulang mga kapatid at syempre LITSONG BABOY!!! (Wala kasing baboy dito sa Saudi) iba ang tingin ko sa Pinas parang isang langit ang turin ko ditto at hindi ako makapag-intay para makapagbakasyon na muli. Ang pagtingin, pakikinig, pagsalat ay mga paraan kung papaano pakainin ang ating utak ito ang aking obserbasyon. Kung ang katawan ay kumakain, umiinom at nageehersisyo para manatiling buhay, malusog at masigla ganun din kung paano mabuhay ng malusog at masigla ang isipan kailangan punan ng mga impormasyon at minsan ay sanayin sa pamamagitan ng pagsulat o pagbuo ng mga puzzle. Sabi nga maging maingat tayo sa mga magiging kaibigan baka ito ang maghatid sa atin sa kapahamakan, sa panahon ngayon medyo iba na, maging maingat ka sa mga bagay na nababasa mo o napapanood baka ito ang nagbibigay ng masamang impluwensya sa iyo.

 ANG HULI (HINDI MAIPALIWANAG)

Ang panghuli kung masasabi ay subukan ninyong gawin ito, ang tatlungpung araw na walang TV o kahit mag after six kayo yung wala ng Telebisyon pagkatapos ng alasais ng hapon lalo na balita kung maiiwasan ninyo ng tatlungpung araw ay mararamdaman ninyo ang mga positiong pagbabago. Marami akong mga magandang nararanasan dulot ng pagdye-dyeta ng panonood sa TV ang nabangit ko lang ditto ay ilan lamang na kapag sinabi ko ay makakarelate ang karamihan. Matapos ang tatlungpung araw hindi na ako naging mahilig sa TV lalo na sa Balita at malalaman ninyo iyan kung bakit kapag sinubukan ninyo na bawasan o tigilan ang panonood ng Telebisyon sa loob ng Tatlungpung araw. Ngayon bihira nalang akong manoond ng Telebisyon sa totoo lang binenta ko yung aking Sony Trinitron sa aking kasama sa trabaho noon at nakakapanood nalang ako ng TV kapag nadadalaw sa isang kaibigan na bukas ang telebisyon.

Subukan ninyo.

The issue is not the GOOD and the BAD, but the GOOD and the BEST

Why people don’t grow? I mean why many employees or businessman claim that despite of they are doing a GOOD job why they still remain where they are yesterday?

 Hear their remorse;

 “I’m employee for XX years I do what is written in my job description”, the clergy man might say

 “I’m being reasonable to my clients for XX years, I keep my expense and asset on balance” the business owner might say too

 And on the bottom line of their statements you will read this line

 “WHY I DON’T GROW? WHY I FEEL INCOMPLETE? WHY I FEEL UNSATISFIED? After all I am doing a GOOOOOD job.”

 It seems there is no problem at all and later on we suspect our boss, spouse, friends or the system because of our STAGNANCY not knowing the big-big problem is in front of us and that is just being “GOOD”.

Being GOOD for me is just like being NORMAL and NORMAL things don’t stand up from the crowd and remember that people who stand up from the crowd are exposing on much fortunes. (American Idols, Pinoy Idols, You tube stars etc.)

Your boss will not be impress if you just do what is in your job description, he will not thank you for doing your job, because after all you and the recruitment department agreed that you will do that because they are paying you to do it (its written on the contract). I don’t mean that you need to go to work early in the morning and go home late at night which is very common now a day for people who want to play the role of HARD WORKING EMPLOYEE just to get his boss attention. For the business man who just sell things, get the money and go away will not be remembered by customers, he is just a simple Joe in the market place.

Doing a GOOD job don’t hurt anybody but GOOD job wont bring you on top.

THE BEST IS THE WAY ON TOP!

 If you are looking for the wall where you can lean your ladder to reach your TOP I suggest you look for the wall named BEST.

For the Clergy man; instead of following the same format of presentation every week why don’t you put some spice on it? Try another format, change the font, the color or you can even put some small graphics to make everybody in the meeting room entertained or if you can do your job for 30 minutes before why don’t you challenge your self and find a ways to make it 20 minutes only?

For the businessmen; instead of just selling things why don’t you ask your customers where they will use it? And give them a friendly advice where they can save much money even you send them to another stores or retailer, you might not win their pocket but winning their heart is a much more beneficial, maybe tomorrow morning that customer will tell his friend that you’re a good man and they might come visit you and buy some stuffs.

You know this is just my suggestions but I believe your getting what I mean about the BEST! Doing the best things has a lot of work and sometimes sacrifices, only hardship is what will you see if you are thinking for short term but if you expand your mind you know that in the end there is a huge payback will come back to you.

Knowing whats BAD and whats GOOD then choosing GOOD and staying away from BAD is a very easy job,  there is no much benefits in easy job, every body taking their life in easy way and I am not surprise why the number of unsatisfied people are greater than satisfied people because they take their life easy, they settle their self on good, on what is just okay but look on the life of high achievers they do things where they look like crazy, they fail a lot but still keep on trying again, this people has a ridicules dreams who dream that some day they can reach the moon, who dream that we will not need horses for transportation, people who dream we can reach USA from Philippines for days instead of months or years.

People who squeeze them selves to bring-out the best on them are the people who are the most rich, most great or labeled as a genius in human race.

There is no battle between the GOOD and the BAD but the modern war today is between the GOOD and The BEST

It’s the battle of THAT’S SATISFACTORY VS. THAT’S FANTASTIC

Don’t be attached on your purpose

    The Self-help era might save few people from the dark and enlighten us what and how we can handle daily issues and improve our quality of life. Then we found out that even you have a luxurious lifestyle but your heart is empty that will not assure you a long term happiness and to have that long term happiness we need to know and pursue something we want to do in life and that’s we call “Purpose”

Some people buy books, do the research or attend some seminars just to learn the techniques and ways to internalize so they can make or find their purpose and yes as what the saying said “Knock and it shall be open; Ask and you will be answered”

After we find our purpose it seems that the life is still the same, there are some people who dislike us and people who wants us because of what our doing. Its like our life with mediocrity where there are someone to hate and to love its just like the same thing but this time you are just having integrity.

 When we found or make our path to be in peace, in purpose or when we are comfortable to the mission and vision that we made or modeled we must understand that someday you will lose interest on it. The thing is that you know when to stop or unaware on it because some way or another for sure you will stop, maybe to take a break, vacation or just changes path. I would like to share this to my fellow “seekers of purpose” that maybe today we are inspired blogger and the next morning we feel that there are something inside that convince us to try another hobby or career maybe that’s photography, speaking or boxing and if this will come I say there are nothing wrong to accept them.

 I think there are no good in being attached to everything, because I notice attachment makes us too dependent whether that’s a person, responsibility or a thing we must not forget that we came in this world nothing so as well we will leave here without anything in our pockets. Like what Wayne Dyer said in his seminars and like what Tyler Durden said in the movie Fight club “You are not your cloths, you not the money that is in your bank account or the car you drive but you’re a decomposing waste in this world” something like this. I observe on the forums that I visit that there are some people treat purpose as a thing! And for me as how I understand it should not be like this, the purpose of having a Purpose is to make life valuable! To leave a legacy by living life base on unchangeable principle, in layman terms, to spend our life in a higher good, I’m not saying that we must go to dormitory and be a saint, there are many ways on how to be valuable or leave a legacy in life and we should keep in mind that having a purpose is not like joining a team and be loyal on it, when you feel that you don’t have much to give to the role who performs your purpose that will be the perfect sign for you to put it down and go to the next, not because your weak or inconsistent but it’s a way of life that maybe we already satisfied our self on that area and we need to look for something new or more.

 Putting down your current chosen purpose is not bad, that is not gonna be a withdrawal to your integrity accounts. That is growth and growth is simple or same meaning of living your life.

I say lets evolve! Let life touch us and don’t close our doors so that every opportunity in life can come inside to us and then when we are in our death bed we can say

“Good bye world” whole heartedly because we know on our own that we really live our life to the fullest not just because we travel the whole world, live luxurious life or became the most iconic person in human race but it is because we embrace life on every moment of it.

 Don’t close your doors for every opportunity that knocks, keep it coming but of course we need to be responsible to the things that it is not acceptable to our standards but don’t let our life to be like prisoner who neglect our sense of freedom. Trust your inner voice or your guts, tell to your self “I will enjoy life” say it and let it repeat again and again until the word manifest by it self.

 Some purpose is meant to leave or rest for a while so that another one that are more interesting and will help us to be a better person we want to be will come in.

Finding your Purpose is not the way to Richness

 

I want to remind the people who are also avid fans of Self-help development or self-empowerment (whatever the name but same purpose) that when were finding what we really want to do in life or if you already doing what you want in life and you felt that

 

“Why I am still here?” I mean

Why my bank account still turning to zero in the end of the month?

Why my boss didn’t promote me instead those kiss a$$ fellow took the opportunity to have the promotion?

why people who is being imprison to their job got the large amount of money while me or you are struggling in financial needs or sometimes we find our self broke and borrowing money to those kiss a$$er?

 

You can be a great artist, writer or singer whatever you wish. You can perform on the highest level that nobody can match what you are doing today but it’s very disappointing to know that after you perform you don’t have enough dough to buy a cheap meal in Mc Donalds. You know and I know and I believe you also see some people who are very passionate on their career and no doubt that what they are doing is what they really want but we are being disappointed when we come to know that most of them are suffering in financial needs and sometimes most of them has no house to sleep-over. I already met people that I am talking about; who has passion and already found what they really want to do and dedicate their life on that task, hobby etc. and yes like what I said many of them struggle in financial needs and it is sad to tell you the truth that some of those people who I met died not even have the chance to own a brand new car or a decent lot and two floor house. While people who turn their back on what they really want to do in life and joined to the political world of corporate business where they are being treated as slaves and not knowing that the company that they are working for and sacrificing their time, health and life can dispose them anytime the company wanted to do and all the sacrifices he made can be forgotten, this is a very cruel or scary truth but it really happen however many people close their eyes and ears and carry on and some of them are surviving until now, however they remain slaves but a slave who can buy a new car, house & lot, new gears and signature cloths even those things are both by using credit card or debt, and the slaves might say

 

“at least I have car, house & lot, toys and signature cloths how about you?”

 

Once a newbie in self-help saw this heavy reality of finding your purpose and being rich for sure he will pause for a while and tell to his self that…

 

“Self-help screw me! I wasted my time buying this best selling books, wasted my time surfing this website and reading others problem or reading their advice I just lean my ladder on the wrong wall, but wait that ladder thing is from 7^th Habbit? Well those habits screw me too. I am still becoming broke; still don’t own a house and no cellphone”

 

When this moment came to you that you ask your self why you still don’t have brandnew car, house & lot, cool gears or cant even buy a original Lacoste shirt in the mall after all that I finish reading the unlimited power, eroneouse zone, the whole article of Steve Pavlina and Brian Kim etc. etc. and now I already found what I want to do I want to play guitar, perform to the stage and make people happy, I am good on what I am doing right now, I am satisfied and happy but my question is WHERE IS THE MONEY?

 

KLAPAK!!!!

 

Sorry but I need to slap your face to make you calm for a while

 

Again when these times come to you, what you must do is to celebrate because once again you grow! Remember the first time you read your first self-help book, article or excerpt that motivate, inspire, convince and encourage you to go this far? It’s the same thing what you are experiencing now its just in different approach but the same purpose and that is to let you grow, enlighten and see on the larger screen how life operates.

 

Now you know that being happy or to feel good in life has nothing to do in money or whatever tangible things. If ever you meet real painter, musician or any kind of artist most of them who are good on what their doing is not that blessed in financial income but you can see to their eyes that financial income don’t bother them much, they are more concern on their projects or arts, they are in the bliss. So my point here is not to remind you how awful this life but I want you to realize that being HAPPY, FEEL GOOD or SATISFIED has no connection on being a millionaire, billionaire, riding fancy car, bedding hot models or living in a MANSION what you need to do is read those books and articles, understand them and do it! Well personally I want to say that you learn to run your mind which sounds funny but if you make serious research how to do it that can change your life too, but to be more detailed just read the books that I said above or any related books that cover the subject.

 

To sum it up FINDING MONEY! Is way way way far far far on FINDING YOUR PURPOSE and self-help guru doesent say to you that when you find your purpose you will be BILLIONAIRE like Donald Trumph or When you FOUND YOUR PURPOSE you will be HAPPY yes you will be happy but if your idea of happiness is dirving a FERARI or LAMBORGHINI I think we are comparing different page here.

 

Again what Wayne Dyer said on one of his seminars from youtube and podcast

 

“Before enlightenment (finding your purpose) chop wood and carry water, after enlightenment (already found your purpose) chop wood and carry water”

 

When you become Spider-man(enlighten or found your purpose) it doesent mean your everyday issue in life will be gone or just solve in magical way, after you remove your mask you need to deal them as what you are before.

 

 

 

How to have tons of Positive Approval

 

            Everybody want positive approval that’s a fact! Approval about their relationship; approval that he is the strongest, fastest, cutest or richest! just name it! And I bet plenty of folks out there are on the hunt to get POSITIVE APPROVAL.

 

POSITIVE APPROVAL has unlimited sources, its like an ocean sea, it can be your mom, dad, bro, sis, friends, officemate, boss, crush, spouse, kids, neighbor, enemy, classmates, forum-mate, x-girlfriend, x-wife and the list will continue… same thing in negative approval.

 

Some people have it(P.A) but many gone to never ending cycle of crush and burn even they have it all or did it all, both the latest gear or did the direst stunt but still they have this unsatisfying feeling that their subconscious mind telling to them

 

“You still don’t have it!!!”

 

“What is that?”

 

“The POSITIVE APPROVAL”

 

We have different idea what is POSITIVE APPROVAL, some might say P.A is to be inspired, motivate or appreciated but the main reason why we need POSITIVE APPROVAL is to make our self feel good, look good, sounds good or to be just good.

 

Some people are so needy to have it, some are trying hard to pretend that he don’t want it but deep inside he is dying for it, some are being greedy for P.A and some are effortlessly having it.

 

Well I ask my self three questions about P.A (Positive Approval) do we really need it? Why? And how to have tons of P.A?

 

So let me tackle it one by one

 

 

DO WE NEED POSITIVE APPROVAL?

 

I say positive approval is NOT a NEED but it is more appropriate to say that POSITIVE APPROVAL belongs to the WANTS category.

 

WHY?

 

Everybody can survive without any POSITIVE APPROVAL, think about it if ever happen that you are being trap in an lonely island for one year or lets say for one decade but you have all the basic NEEDS to live; like fine drinking water, foods, shelter, friendly animals for your social needs and HOPE that you can be rescue one day. I believe that you can survive without hearing any compliments; praises or words that make you feel appreciated. 

 

But if your still insisting to know the answer on HOW TO HAVE TONS OF POSITIVE APPROVAL in you life?

 

Here is the answer from the man I consider a guru, his name is Wayne Dyer and he said on how to have approval or compliments in your life is this

 

STOP NEEDING IT!

 

Yes that’s it STOP needing it. Sounds ridiculous? Yes you bet but I tell you try it and you will see what will happen.

 

Try to lessen the amount of your time thinking what other may say about what your up to and just do it. Be rebellious on doing what you want! if you really want to change your course that your taking up in college right now well just do it

 

 if you want to start you own blog site but you are too wary about your knowledge on writing English grammar well I say just do it! Write what you want to write say what you want to say in the whole world! Grammar is important but the most important in any speech, articles, news or blog entry is the MESSAGE! In sex foreplay is important but what most important is SATISFACTION! Unleashed the accumulated desire in your heart, free your mind, heart and soul! BE A FREEMAN! Don’t let the treat of criticism on your choice stop you, if you relay of criticism, reviews and professional opinions I am sure your world will get smaller and smaller everyday, believe me I’ve been there before.

 

If you stop needing approval, appreciation, compliments, praises or admiration the cycle will change! Those so called POSITIVE APPROVALS will gonna chase you!

 

If you don’t believe on what I am saying, if you think I am just playing around I challenge you to try it in 30 days STOP NEEDING IT and be aware to the changes will happen.

How to make a choice to our self

 

It’s a simple question like what many people think, but as what I always share to my articles that I learn from books, podcast and from my first hand observations the simplest is what the hardest discipline, rules or principle many people can’t do. Like for example DO NOT STEP ON THE GRASS or THROW YOUR GARBAGE OVER HERE AND NOT OVER THERE simple instruction but we are the witness that many people still don’t follow such a simple rules and also we got to admit that we are one of them sometimes or often.

 

Making choices in life has a lot of ways to do, it seems easy for us to make if we are not the one who are in the hot seat but I know and you know that we all have experience to have sleepless night thinking “which is which”, I can also agree that there are times in our life that we made a choice quickly and seems we are very confident to what we decided to choose even in critical situations.

 

So HOW TO MAKE A CHOICE TO OUR SELF? Is there any clear answer to this question? Or this is situational and there is no really exact answer for this?

 

Well I think I have the exact answer…

 

I believe the reason why we are so quick and confident to make a choice, sometimes; even in a critical situation is because of two reasons A.) We are detached to what others opinion and B.) We know what we really want.

 

So simple if you are not a type of person who needs the external approval… and the letter B will be easy for you. Most of the people I knew who have a hard time to make-up their mind is those people who are so easily convince on what the commercial advertisement says and people who are very sensitive on what is the latest trend and what is the opinion of others.

 

Let us remind our self that EVERYBODY IS UNIQUE and BEAUTY IS UPON THE EYE OF THE BEHOLDER what is good for you may not appeal to me. We have different needs and wants in life some people value quality time to their family instead of high paying salary or some people put amount of their time to hobby rather than on finding their future other half. So we must not be offended if someone makes an opinion that is not favorable on our choice… because probably they are not on our exact situation.

 

Let set an example here; let say you will buy a car, people usually ask WHAT IS THE BEST CAR TO BUY?

 

The word BEST is very general if you ask a person who value practicality he might say buying a 94 Corolla XE will be a bang for the buck because its economical in gas since it’s a 1300cc engine and the parts of Toyota is very available everywhere, if you ask person who value performance and style he might answer any series of Mitsubishi Evolution is the best buy because of the turbo engine and have impressive history in rally races plus the aggressive looks! or if you ask a person who value full comfort he might answer nothing will beat to SUV’s or Vans. You see all of them are correct answer or not it depends of what you really want, same thing if you buy a professional camera, what do you value? budget, performance or comfort and the list goes on…

 

I also realize that sometimes after making your choice you need to be brave enough to face the pros and cons of your choice… of course we all know life is not a bed of roses and we must learn how to deal with the thorns and figure out how to be our asset.

 

REGRET IS NOT THE ANSWER

 

It may happen that what we choose yesterday we do not need anymore today, remember this, growth is part of life we progress and we make improvement. It doesn’t mean that last year you choose to buy car and after one year you need to upgrade for a van because your kids are growing and then you whine around saying that you should buy van since before instead of buying the car first. Instead of being regretful, for me we must accept changes in life and rejoice that we are growing! We also don’t know sometimes we buy the whole pie and in the end of the day we realize we just only need the ¼ of it.

 

Be detached to the opinion of others and if someone gives you a word of disapproval to your choice you can say it nicely to your self or to the person who made the opinion that

 

Your opinion is not my business… and then move on