You cannot be lonely if you like the person you’re alone with

  It will not surprise me why many people are so in to night life’s, parties or events that is loaded by million of fans and they make fun of the people who stay’s at home and label them BORING!

 It concerns me, after the party, the night life’s and the big boom events this people who claim they live their life to the fullest will go home maybe with somebody else with them to sleep over for the night but after that they will be ALONE and feel LONELY and again to fight that LONELINESS they need to check out their schedule to find out when will be the next gigs or party and then after that HAPPY TIMES they will be ALONE and feel LONELY again! and the cycle will go on and on and on.

 I notice most of the party goers like me before is out there just to make their self happy but what we are doing is not really helping us to feel good on the long run. People who depend so much on events to light-up their mood will be sadder than they are before. Some people just don’t want to be alone and because of that they despise people who are comfortable of being solo.

  If you ask me why? the reason is because first they don’t know what they want in life I mean yes they want to party but what I observe most of the people who gone to parties or clubs has a lack of idea what or how to be happy and of course the society promotes the bars and clubs is the place where people hang-out to be happy so they buy that advertisement to satisfy they hunger of being happy.

 Second is afraid to accept. There are people have some very painful issues like break-ups, career frustration or disappointment in the family. I pity this people because they are just like travelers who want to go to Detroit but they are following the map of Chicago and guess what they will never reach Detroit and if they insist that map they will end up on more exhaustion but never reach the place they want to be.

 Last is being condition. Most of the people today are dependent on public opinion if everybody put tattoos in their body they will put tattoos too on their body if most celebrities gone to wear some branded products, guess what? they will buy that product too and of course going to party and clubs is a traditional or the most common baseline of being cool and having FUN! So what do we expect most people will do?

 This is what I learn, if you are become aware on the results of what you did in the past or on the result that you will produce on what you are doing right now and you figure out how to be comfortable on that results, there will be no reason to feel lonely every time you’re alone.

NO

 

Two letters for a single word that can deny, reject or put someone down. This word is what we are trying to avoid because we are all condition that there is nothing good for this word (which is NO!)

 

I read several book about self improvement that will guide you how to handle the NO situation in your life and turn it to YES! Moments… But that’s not what I want to brought out in this article, the reason why I raise this subject is because I want to share to you what I learn. The word NO has a lot of benefits in our life whether in our relationship, dealing to our schedule or even fighting in addiction! Well I think you know where this topic will fall…

 

That is don’t be a pussy to say NO to the things you don’t want

 

Say NO to extra rice if you’re in diet

Say NO to surprise task if you want to meet your deadline

Say NO to your spouse to the unnecessary expense if you want to meet your target savings!

 

Its too short word to spit-out from our mouth but we are so lazy to say the word NO! NO! NO!

 

I agree that sometimes it takes tons of courage and motivation to say…

 

I’m sorry boss the answer is NO…

 

NO I will not accept that assignment because I need to be with my family in holiday

 

NO I will not accept the promotion if the catch is my neck will be tied-down to the schedule of projects

 

NO! NO! NO!

 

So simple to say but I got to admit even me I had the hard times to say this and I am blissful every time I say it in the moment I need.

 

If the guys invite me for dinner I say NO! I will not eat tonight I am on diet

 

Its break time and my colleagues invite to smoke some cigar I say NO thanks I quit smoking

 

My phone alarm at 4AM and I want to continue sleeping and I say NO I must get-up and do my cardio.

 

 

Don’t be a pushy

Don’t be slave

Don’t give away your time unconsciously

 

Say NO if it’s enough

Say NO if it’s too much

Say NO if you want to stop the old system that brings you nowhere and make a fresh new beginning…

 

 

SAY NO TODAY!!!

 

THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS A FAILURE

 

Everybody is busy doing what they believe they must do to avoid this disgusting label of FAILURE. Nobody wants this word to be written on their resume, a lot of people have allergy hearing this word and for Christ’s sake a lot of people are also denying this violently.

 

Every time I ask a person

 

 “Are you failure in life?”

 

They will give you a quick answer of NO! And then when I ask them WHY or HOW they say that?

 

They will answer you by AH! UH! MM rhymes.

 

Instead of living to the alibis and lies to hide your so called FAILURE in life why don’t we change our views and think in this way that…

 

THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS A FAILURE and SUCCESS in life,

 

 As what Wayne Dyer said

 

“When you swing the golf club to hit the ball, and the ball doesn’t go inside the hole its up to you how you will view that, you can call it FAILURE because you did not shoot the golf-ball inside the hole or you can consider that as a SUCCESS because the golf-ball go nearer to the hole which will be easy for you manage” (something like this)

 

There are only RESULTS!

 

Yes whatever you do you only produce one thing…

 

RESULT and the interpretation to that RESULT is up to you what flavor to put.

 

Let’s make a short example

 

Some people who were divorced to their spouse because they discover that s/he is cheating become depress and very sad because of that he did not do a pretty good job on managing his life, he out-balance his responsibilities and because of this it result overweight, loose job and turn to him/her to bankruptcy after time goes by.

 

While some people who is also divorced to their spouse because they discover that s/he is cheating, took this as a challenge to him so s/he turn his life to become more physically fit and healthy, financial income is going high and also quit his/her job to focus more on his business, later on he is not a paying slaves anymore but a financially free person.

 

As you can see my example above shows that some people use RESULTS in their life in different ways, some use it to destroy themselves while somebody use it to change their life for the better.

 

I don’t know your stories in life, even though I heard a lot of different stories, but I believe that our past is in our control how we will interpret it, is it for the better or not.

 

You decide!

The 5 Walls of discrimination that Manny Pacquiao abolished after defeating Delahoya

 

 

 

On December 7, 2008 at MGM Grand in Las Vegas the Dream Match of Manny Pacquiao versus Oscar Dela Hoya surprised millions of people around the world when Manny Pacquiao dominated Oscar Dela Hoya every round of the fight.

 

            On that date it’s not only Dela Hoya is been defeated but also many of limiting beliefs of mediocrity are being knocked down!  Big time!

 

Those are “The Walls of Discrimination” and what these are?

 

Let me tell to you one by one…

 

 

1.) The Wall of Racial Discrimination

 

            I can still remember way back 15 years ago I asked the elders why there is no Filipino go toe to toe with the boxer’s in United Sates of America?

 

You know what their answer?

 

Dream on!

 

And then I did what they requested, I dream that someday there will be a Filipino going to be famous in world of boxing that he will fight to the high caliber boxers and I cant still believe that my dream came true to the “Dream Match” happen on December 7, 2008 of ODLH vs. MP.

 

Before, way back 90’s if you tell to your friends that it is possible that someday there will be a Filipino boxer who can fight Dela Hoya they might think that you are absolutely fantasying or crazy.

 

Why?

 

Because of Racism! It’s sad to know that even some of our fellow Filipino will degrade their own nationality.  

 

For them the race will dictate their future but our Manny Pacquiao destroys that MYTH round by round on his fight against Dela Hoya.

 

I am rejoicing to the result of the fight not because I am happy when someone gets hurt really bad or because I hate Mexicans. I am so damn happy because of what the message of this fight can show to us, not only to the Filipino, Mexican or American people but for the whole world and to the youth of next generation!

 

What message is that?

 

“Irregardless the color of your skin you are free to fulfill your Dream.”

 

Before the match of MP vs. ODLH, I read a lot of hater’s comments that

 

MP will be KO in first round by ODLH

It’s unwise decision for MP to take the match against ODLH

MP will not win the fight against ODLH

 

And they go on…

 

Behind those comments I know that the main reason why they said that is not actually of ODLH achievements. But the main reason is they are thinking that…

 

“No way in the History of boxing a Filipino gone that far!”

 

But I am sorry to tell that the result of the fight is loud and clear that

 

“Race doesn’t matter!”

 

The face of Dela Hoya after the match with Pacquiao on December 7, 2008 at MGM Grand in Las Vegas will tell us that…

 

 

“We must not measure the man by the color of his skin or where he came from.”

 

 

2.) The Wall of “Reality”

 

            People are too attached on reality and that’s why they are unconscious that they are shutting down their dreams little by little. For sure looking to the reality is fine and advisable to do on decision making or planning but the problem here is that when we are too much holding what reality shows us, we don’t realize that

 

“Reality”

 

Came from idealism from idea or dream that has no strong basis that it is doable before. Imagine if we still stick on “reality thinking” maybe

 

We still believe that earth is flat

Maybe we are still using horse for transportation

Maybe we even don’t have internet until today

 

Not too far on MP vs. OLDH match, before people say’s…

 

Pacquiao will not win the fight because his too short compare to Dela Hoya

Pacquiao will not win the fight because Dela Hoya is stronger than him

Pacquiao will not win the fight because his fist is smaller than Dela Hoya

 

All of this comparison is correct and true

But it only shows us that “comparison alone” will not really tell us what will be the result on events.

 

Mediocrity labeled the word “Impossible” to these fellows before…

 

Henry Ford the inventor of car, they said that it is impossible to run an engine with only four cylinders but still he pursue his belief and no wonder why we have V8 today.

 

Lance Armstrong who have a testicular cancer but won the two Tour de France stages.

 

Wilma Rudolph, woman has“polio” since birth who won three Olympic titles; the 100 m, 200 m and the 4 x 100 m relay.

 

 

And may I include Manny Pacquiao’s name by winning the match against one of the hall of famer in the name of boxing. Who is bigger, popular and stronger than him. I know that margin of comparison between Manny and Lance, Wilma or Henry is too far but I still belief that I am hitting the same point that

 

“Reality will not exactly dictate your capacity”

 

 

3.) The Wall of “Stagnant”

 

            Most of people usually say that after winning in the casino games is

 

“Go home and don’t spend your luck too much, it may run out.”

 

The boxing sports can compare on gambling, we don’t know what will happen next, like ODLH said…

 

“What happen in the gym is totally different in the ring” (something like this…)

 

That’s why people don’t aim too high because they are scared that they may fall too hard to the ground. Before when the match of MP and ODLH is announced in public, people commented and ask why Manny accept that match?

They actually want to say to Pacquiao that; it’s too risky for his career. He already make a good reputation and that reputation may fallen apart if he fight against ODLH which is a sure loss (this is what they think before not until Pacuiao swept Delahoya from Round 1-8)

 

In short they say “stagnation”

 

Stay where you are!

 

Being satisfied on what you have is a good thing to do but when it comes to the point that you are stopping the progress of your life that is bad. Because that is the essence of our life “To Grow”

 

I think MP realize that his greatness will fade-away someday or someway so instead of playing it safe why he don’t enjoy his greatness to the fullest? Which it payback big time more than what we expect.

 

Manny Pacquiao shows us that if you want to take your life in the higher level you must also face the highest challenge, no matter how big it is.

 

As what I said on my other article that

 

“Being Great is not a joke!”

 

If we still being satisfied on pay-check to pay-check income and not commit our self to become financially free we will end up a slave forever by our job.

 

Quitting your job will be a big No-No to most people and focusing full-time to your sidelines; they focus to the failure automatically but imagine if you don’t? If your sideline clicks! And it becomes successful? How wonderful your life will be? Like what Manny did! Instead of giving alibi’s he accept the fight and focus to the brigther side of the event and guess what where he is now?

 

But I am not talking about just blindly resign to your job and hop-in to the business world without being preferred. Just like Manny Pacquiao when he agreed to the match, he goes to big preparation in order to cope up on that fight.

 

I remember what Jim Rohn said in some of his seminar tackling about improvement in life that…

 

“It is easy to climb the ladder than to wait”

 

Surely Pacquiao did not wait to put his name on the Hall of Famer instead he climbs the ladder and put his name by him self and nobody can disagree on that because he truly deserved it.

 

4.) The Wall of STATUS

 

            This 4^th wall is what always Manny Pacquiao believes every time he goes to a big match In the Philippines where the word “Crab mentality” is at large in everyday lives whether in school, office or business but when we talk about Manny’s Fight everybody is joining forces to support him for his match.

 

Irregardless if you are rich or poor, it’s like another way of Peoples Power in Edsa.

 

But in Manny’s Fight is I think more appealing and interesting because not only the Filipino fans in the Philippines are joining forces but also the other Filipinos around the globe is uniting to support Manny.

 

So in the way of Boxing Pacquiao breaks the “Wall of Status” and only shows us that changes are possible.

 

 

 

5.) The Wall of Doubts

 

            This 5^th wall I think will summarize the whole 4 walls, and I believe that this is the biggest wall of all discrimination. People always listen to their doubt rather than their dreams and I hope Manny fight against Delahoya will be a reminder to all of us that doubt will never be helpful to us to achieve our goals in life.

 

For sure many will disagree that we must also look for the reality, race, and status or sometimes we must also listen to our doubts and I will not argue to you about that. Your race, the reality, status or doubt can be helpful information to use in building your game plan but this information is not enough for me to dictate your capabilities to perform.

 

 

 

The After words

 

            My purpose on writing this is to share to everybody what I realize after watching Manny’s fight against ODLH that “Nothing is impossible” whatever your race, status present condition in life. I like what President Obama said that

 

“This is not United States of Black American or United States of White American but this is United States of America” (Then people stand-up for applause)

 

So may I follow the path of his statement that…

 

“Life is everybody to live”

 

So there you go the Walls of Discrimination our Manny Pacquiao abolish after defeating ODLH and you may hate me or love me to what I wrote and that is expected because as what I always believe

 

“Every body is unique”

 

Cheers…

It’s not the Ride, It’s the Rider…

 

 

Alam nyo isa sa hilig ko ang manood ng mga pelikula and one thing that I love to do while watching movies is quoting their lines, lalo na yung mga linyang malalakas ang dating!

 

 

 

Naniniwala ako na most of the readers already watch the movie “The Fast and The Furious- Tokyo Drift” alam ko na natatandaan nyo pa rin yung isang scene ni Lucas Black (main actor) nung medyo nilalait siya nung isang Hot Babe and she said to him

 

“Nice Ride”

 

Obviously the Lady is trying to insult him in some ways, kasi kung makikita ninyo yung sasakyan ni Lucas compare sa inuupuan nung Hot Chick na Red Viper (correct me if im wrong) ay talagang magmumukang kawawa ang kotse ng ating bida.

 

Despite of that, Lucas replies with full confidence and he say’s…

 

Its not the Ride, It’s the Rider!

 

And then suddenly the facial reaction of this Hottie Babe change and parang nagkaroon siya ng immediate attraction sa ating main actor.

 

Malakas yung binitawang linya ni Lucas Black para sa akin.

 

Its not the Ride, It’s the Rider

 

After hearing this seven words naisip ko ang mga sumusunod

 

Old school boxes-type beat the latest model of V8

Rocky Balboa beat Apollo Creed

A man killed five armed goons using a kitchen knife

Stock Honda Jazz run on 12 sec sa quarter mile

David vs. Goliath

 

You can call it absurd or impossible but I believe there are time’s in your life that you also witness or experience this unbelievable twist!

 

It also reminds us that material things are not enough to grow it is more important that we improve starting inside…

 

It doesn’t mean that when you have a strong engine under your hood you can win every race, nope you must learn the skills first.

 

It doesn’t mean that you have the high power gun you can shoot exactly what you aimed, nope you must do a lot of practice first.

 

It doesn’t mean when you have Jordan 20 series shoes you can dunk the hoop, Nope you must do the training first.

 

And it goes on…

 

Its nice to know that we already capable to become who we want to be. Its not the shoes, gloves or the shirt, what matters is YOU!

 

Yes YOU!

 

Its coming from the inside and then it will naturally reflect to outside and nobody can stop that system, nobody can change that flow.

 

What is good of a sharp sword if the handler is ignorant and a kitchen knife will be threatening if the handler is expert on killing.

 

 I believe you already got my point so when your using your old personal computer remember that

 

Its not the PC, It’s the user. What’s the use of Quad core power PC if you don’t have the knowledge to maximize it.

 

When you wear your unbranded shoes think of it that…

 

Its not the shoe, it’s the guy who wear the shoes. So what if you have the thousand box shoe pero jologs naman ang nagdadala.

 

When your driving your old car remember that

 

Its not the Ride, It’s the Rider, What’s the use of brand new car with a rating of 350 HP if the driver don’t have the guts to reach the top speed of the ride..

 

Don’t base your judgment by the external possession because in the end it will boils down to the user

 

It will boils down to you…

 

 

 

 

 

You don’t find it, You must make it.

 

Most of us think that we have a built-in purpose to our lives like their grand parents turn-over their family business to him so his purpose is to continue what his great grand parents started. Some people who was involved on some events or tragedy in their life like rape, cancer, drug addiction or workaholic then they win the trauma and challenges, they took that as a sign that they must help others who was on the same position that they been thru before.

 

Some people has no idea what is the purpose of his life so he make research, meditations, interviews and how-to-find-purpose exercise. What I’ve learn on having a purpose in life is that your decision make your purpose. Some people want to help the cancer victims rather than accepting their family business , some ex-alcoholic want to run business rather than help the alcoholic patients, some people who have no idea what his purpose has decided to follow his fathers business rather find what he really wants, it all depends on a human’s decision so it means having a purpose is not about finding signs and symbols who you must become but deciding right now what you want to become and do the things you must do and be ready to the challenges that may stop you.

 

 We make our purpose and it is not dependent on the signs and symbols or to our autobiography its all on our hands what purpose we must do. Start deciding now, you may think that “how if my choice is not what I want?” then from the experience of your first choice you decide what kind of worthy activity you want, maybe you want to build something, share something or write something. The process of creation is not just imagination and planning there must me a implementation, do what you think and from your act you evaluate and note down what is good and bad then think what may be the solution for the bad notes you have. Most of  great inventors made their invention not because they saw signs and symbol that they must make this or that, what they do is create what they want, they decided that someday human’s will fly too, someday we don’t need horse to travel and from those vision they made a useful creation today. You must make it because you will never going to find it.